Egg donation is a very personal choice many individuals and couples make when seeking assistance in conceiving a child. Because every egg donor program varies from clinic to clinic, it’s important to make certain that yours gives you the most options.
What are some of the options you’ll want to investigate? Consider these, for starters:
Diversified Egg Donor Listing. You deserve as many options as you need, so it’s critical to pick an egg donor program that offers you choices such as the ethnic diversity of the egg donor (including African-American, Jewish heritage, etc.)
Experienced Medical Team. Believe it or not, all reproductive science specialists are not quite as “specialized” as you might think. Thus, it’s critical to find a team that has plenty of expertise in this area.
Young Egg Donors. Many clinics will allow donors up to 35+; at RSI, we consider age 32 the “cap” for our egg donors.
Extensive Egg Donor Profiles. You should be able to find out quite a bit about your egg donor at your reproductive science clinic. If you feel you’re not getting enough information, it’s probably an indication that you’re at the wrong place.
No Waiting List. Better clinics have no egg donor waiting list. That means you have fewer delays in reaching your goal of a healthy baby.
Couples/Individuals Choose Egg Donor. You should be able to choose the egg donor you prefer, and RSI supports that wish. However, it’s important to note that some clinics will want to choose for you.
Competitive Price. As always, you need to work with a reproductive science specialist who understands that fertility treatments should be priced competitively.
Is A Fertility Treatments Support Group Right For You?
For many individuals and couples going through infertility issues and the stressors often associated with fertility treatments, the answer is clear — join a support group. Whether it’s online or in person, this kind of community often becomes a “safe haven” of sorts for men and women dealing with infertility matters.
However, that doesn’t mean that a support group — OR that every support group — is going to fit the bill for you. If you’re not sure if you want to join a group, ask yourself these questions:
Do you feel comfortable talking about your (or a partner’s) infertility matters or — even if you don’t discuss your own personal issues — hearing about others’ fertility concerns? If the answer is “no”, a support group might be extremely uncomfortable for you. However, you may find one-on-one therapy to be valuable.
Are you willing to devote time to a support group? Maybe a support group sounds great theoretically, but you honestly know that you’ll spend a fraction of the time you should on attending meetings, whether in person or virtually. Though that isn’t a definite reason not to join, it may hinder your experiences as a support group member.
Are you willing to allow yourself to be open to a group setting? Some people simply do not wish to be around those they do not know while discussing their personal issues. Of course, if you can bring a trusted friend or family member with you to your group, you may be able to alleviate some of those worries.
Remember that regardless of whether or not you’re currently ready for an infertility support group, you can always change your mind in the future. After all, it’s your experience to share… or not.